Wednesday, October 05, 2005


This post actually fits in perfectly in Bharath post’s comment section. But after reading his post, I was convinced that I have enough to say to make it a post in itself.

Freedom is something which every human being craves for. It is certainly true that Indian women are deprived of their freedom to a great extent. Or to put it differently, they are not brave enough to fight back and get what they want, in spite of good education and financial independence.

Women are from different mould. They think differently, they feel differently and they get hurt differently. This is applicable universally. So, their need for freedom is also different.

Just as men do not feel the need to stray half nude in streets, women also are comfortable dressing in full. In fact, the comfort level and confidence in dressing up fully is immense. When it is universally clear that men drool on women, it is morally incorrect to induce some innocent. It is really difficult to set standards and description on moral ethics. But that is not the license to let one’s morality fly in air and enjoy ‘freedom’.

Western culture is an extreme. Islamic culture is another extreme. Indian culture does not fall under any of the extremities. The problem arises only when we try to sway this way or that way. When organizations like RSS stress on this point, it is to be maturely interpreted that they are emphasizing a right point in a wrong way. They indulge in violence, an extreme, to oppose another extreme, western culture. The tools that these organizations take in their hand are incorrect. Not their motto. (Personally, I would not mind anyone slapping an errant and saying this should not be done. But who will agree? Especially in a spoilt democracy like India.)

Also I do not intend to give clean chit to men and society. It is sad that the obnoxious incident which Bharath pointed out is not strange in our society. But men at large who indulge in these activities are invertebrates, lacking the basic courage. Not even a single man, when left alone would dare to do such a filthy thing. It is only the crowd which gives them the strength and shelter so that they can hide safely when some one stares back even. Remember women, courage is your strength, which those boneless lack.

An educated women, has a matured role to play. There is no doubt that she has a major responsibility to safeguard our culture. When restrictions are self imposed (nothing more than a natural urge to cover oneself fully) with no intention to fall in love with aberrations, atleast she will have the satisfaction of being right on her part. Just because aberrations have become part and parcel of people in some part of the world, a verbatim copy would not just suit our society as our society is still immature and confined.

Gifted with good education and financial independence, most of the women in India have the good sense to think and tackle their own problems. When she feels that she has to face extra problems due to her gender, she should be willing to fight back and win. Feminity is not synonymous to fragility. If someone finds solace in leaning and lamenting, we can sympathize at her, just as we sympathize on seeing a handicapped, a handicap, which was thrust by her own self. A female who cannot tackle her own problem can can as well get herself destroyed, as Darwin said, survival of the fittest.


Anonymous Hari said...

I'm convinced abt ur views and not the same with Bharath's.

Wednesday, October 05, 2005 1:52:00 AM  
Blogger Sarada said...

Hi Vasumathy,

Good one….probably this is the first time I am writing a little lengthy comment.

“A capable female will tackle her problems” I do agree with u. We women can everything in this world provided we intend to do so. Its basically the attitude of people which makes females remain numb instead of fighting back. Its not a sign of boldness at all it is the basic trait that everyone should have. To me its like having the back bone.

It is true that “our society is still immature and confined” but for society sake if someone is afraid wearing an outfit which she likes it absolutely absurd. It need not be a full dress. Only thing she has to make sure is that she feels comfortable wearing it.

To be frank, I myself had suffered from this “pattikadu” looks as quoted by Bharath not even aware of what is that making them to look at me like that. To add I was wearing a full dress a three fourth covered sleeved, loose top and a long umbrella skirt. The society is always like that and we are not here to change their views.


Wednesday, October 05, 2005 8:46:00 PM  
Blogger fieryblaster said...

@ Hari : thanks

@ Saradha: thanks for ur opinion. i do not think i should revise mine. :)

Friday, October 07, 2005 1:46:00 AM  
Blogger Tantalising Tycoon said...

Sent a comment to Bharath.... on the related blog..


Friday, October 07, 2005 8:09:00 AM  
Blogger thennavan said...

I think these issues cannot be "closet" issues any more but need to be brought out in the open and discussed. Good that you followed up with your own thoughts on the original post (I saw that one too). Cheers :-)

Saturday, October 08, 2005 4:29:00 AM  
Blogger Hawkeye said...

hmm posted a comment but it dissappeared.. why? sigh.. will post it again!

Sunday, October 09, 2005 10:45:00 AM  
Blogger fieryblaster said...

@ Pramodh: i noticed ur comment.

@ Thennavan: too much of closet opening is happening in TN nowadays, giving chance to ‘culture guards’ to break open someone's head:)

@ Bharath: what disappeared? let me lodge a complaint in blogostation.:)

Sunday, October 09, 2005 7:35:00 PM  
Blogger Tantalising Tycoon said...

What Do u feel.. Am i right or wrong...

Wednesday, October 12, 2005 3:57:00 AM  
Blogger fieryblaster said...

@ Pramodh: the post over which u opined, and I gave link in my post was removed long back. it will be too funny if i express my opinion on ur opinion on the non existent post.

Wednesday, October 12, 2005 6:40:00 PM  

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