Sunday, December 11, 2005

Sky is my limit

Is there any ambit within which human’s view is restricted? I don’t think so. Distinguishing and comparing is human nature. There are certain basic criterions, which are to be fulfilled in any human being. Nothing is too holy that a slight comparison would make it lose its sanctity. By the way, my humble opinion (not really as humble as it seems to be :))is, nothing in this world carries any sanctity with it. It is only our distance, either mental or physical which makes us to revere something or someone.

Some politicians and writers were my childhood heroes and a slight foul talk about them was enough to make me show all my hidden talents of uproar and commotion. With time, many managed to go out of that hero list, though few still strongly retain that position.

Though I personally hate to hear anything bad about anyone in that hero list, I have not hesitated to air my views freely, irrespective of the sanctity of the subject being criticized.

I think I have given enough prelude.

It is more than exact that Infants are too innocuous, innocent, tender, charming and soothing that we can almost generously postpone all our immediately killing worries and duties to spend some time with them. Despite the fact that most of the infants forcefully object my presence, as if trying to safeguard them selves from some grave danger, I never gave up my attempt to tactfully soothe them and have some good time with them.

I have observed that each child is different. Leave the looks that some have and some do not. That is out of scope of this blog. The inquisitiveness in their eyes. Very few have them. The instant grasp. Very few posses it. The playful nature. Some really do not have it. The adaptability. Some unique children do possess this. These children really love seeing different people and crawling from lap to lap is an enjoyable play for these children.

Thus, just as we like some adults and do not create fondness towards others, it is equally possible that we like some children and do not feel attached to some, as long as the child is someone else’s :).

In TV shows, the way these children carry themselves differ widely. Some are really confident kings and queens and win over the comperer with their innocent and positive smile. Some with tears over their chubby cheeks, look at their parents standing behind the camera, giving a helpless look, while some get fixed to their seats, budging a little heeding to the slight command, opening the mouth hesitantly, to dislodge whatever was fed inside their tiny brains some moment before and hopelessly looking at their parents when they stumble.

It was always my point that just because a child is a child, a third person need not always get immensely attracted towards it. And whenever I shared this view with my friends, they saw me with grimaced face, as if viewing a villain. Do not really know how may of you may conclude that I am a villi. But when it comes to expressing opinions, sky is my limit. No bars held.


Blogger Tantalising Tycoon said...

Hi VAsu,

Pretty confusing one for me. May be i am not comprehending your thoughts this time.

The Tycoon...

Monday, December 12, 2005 4:49:00 AM  
Blogger Hawkeye said...

welcome back!

children were always scared of me. even if i managed to keep a pleasant face (which was rare) they still shunned me.. i am their "boochandi"

Tuesday, December 13, 2005 2:21:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"Not getting attracted" to some children is one thing. One need not feel attracted to all kids, alright. "Disliking" children- especially babies- is altogether another thing. I have seen some grumpy oldies plainly disliking small babies, and scowl at them and make faces when small babies cry (as if they bypassed childhood and landed directly into adulthood). These kind of people are human abominations.

Child is the father of man. (Some times gender neutral quotes take the fizz away from a quote: Try saying the above as "Child is the father or mother of a person"- Sucks!). One learns a lot from the children, by talking to them, by observing them.

My view is at age 0-3, kids are immensely likeable. After that when the child starts doing stuff for others (including parents) expecting gratification or attention, it begins to somewhat lose the innocent beauty it came to this world with.

Tuesday, December 13, 2005 6:11:00 PM  
Blogger fieryblaster said...

@ tycoon: i just wanted to convey that we need not universally love all children and have the right to discriminate.

@ hawkeye: i have also experienced it many a times. but the thing is, i mostly find someway to cajole them. :)

@ ananymous: disliking a child is also possible. especially when children give up their innocence and act as a matured adult beyond their age, that may be irritating. that is hard to see in 0-3 age group u mentioned. with growing popularity of various entertainment media, children are losing their innocence very soon than their counterparts in olden days.

Wednesday, December 14, 2005 3:13:00 AM  
Blogger Sarada said...

Hi Vasu,

I too agree with you. I once had the same opinion as "Anonymous", but after seeing a lot of kids who really don’t look or behave like kids, I have changed my opinion. You have quoted right “children are losing their innocence”.

Take Care,

Wednesday, December 14, 2005 5:17:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

"Losing innocence" is how it appears in the first look when a kid talks/behaves beyond his/her age. Actually what it is trying to do is get noticed, attention and gain importance. In other words it is thinking that it is impressing others/adults by acting out in a certain way. Thus a kid may repeat a line it heard in a TV soap without knowing all the meaning and context, and thus would surprise the hearers, getting the attention it targetetd for. Our culture also indirectly feeds to such things. (e.g beauty contest for kids, kids dancing for "kalyanandhan kattikitu OdipOlama...", TV drama kids acting beyond its age etc). For the kid it is just doing what all kids do (and a lot of adults too)- try to get importance and trying to mimic what it sees in TV.

The best way to address this is to give plenty of Kid-centric activities for kids to do- painting, story-writing, building blocks, reading kid stories, physical activities like hide and seek, catch-me-if-you-can- appreciate kids for such "kiddish" things to reinforce this behaviour rather than praising the adult-like acting out.

Monday, December 19, 2005 9:57:00 AM  
Blogger fieryblaster said...

@ Saradha: one good soul to agree with me. :)

@ anonymous: ur view seems right.

Thursday, December 22, 2005 1:18:00 AM  
Blogger tilotamma said...

are you actually apologizing for thinking not all kids are cho-chweet?

Do u need to do that?

Thursday, December 22, 2005 5:08:00 AM  
Blogger fieryblaster said...

@ tilo: when we accept others view it does not mean that one apologises for the previous view held. when someone's answer seems sensible and gives a logical reason, then one can accept it.

one may not create fondness towards a child for the simple reason that the child is not looking good. those views are purely personal and cannot be critisized. the acceptance was for the explanation of innocent factor.

Friday, December 30, 2005 12:27:00 AM  

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